Julie Fingersh

"Brilliant and inspiring" "So sad the book had to end!" "Must-read for parents"  "I’m so grateful for this book"  "Enormously affecting"  "A life changing book"  "If you need to laugh a lot, cry a little, and feel inspired, this is the book for you." "I couldn’t put the book down"  "I loved, loved, loved this book!" "Both hilarious and authentic, which makes it an easy read" "A MUST READ" "You can’t not relate to this book"  "Your book club will thank you!" "A blessing for everyone who reads it." "I learned about myself"  "You’ll be awestruck" "A spectacular book"  "This book is a true gift"  "Will make you laugh, cry and think"  "It is a triumph. Highly recommend for everyone"  "So much wisdom on every page that I ended up marking up the whole book"  "Almost like a guide to how to love and live well in every life role"  "Exquisitely, courageously written"  "This is a book I will love forever"  "A role model on how to live a meaningful life"  "A treasure and this book is not to be missed"  "Brilliant, beautiful, hopeful and heartbreaking" "You will finish this book and recommend it to everyone you know"  "I read the whole thing in 24 hours and couldn’t stop!" "A must read for anyone coping with the severe illness of a young family member"  "Hoo boy, I would give this book 6 stars if I could." "So much in this book that is profoundly meaningful on so many topics." "I took a walk & cried when I was finished." "Helped me reflect on my own struggles and losses"  "Heartfelt, raw, authentic, and sad yet filled with humor that made me laugh throughout."  "Brought me to such a unique mix of emotions." "How lucky we readers are that Fingersh’s medium is writing" "Ten stars — A must read" 

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Stay

A Story of Family, Love, & Other Traumas

Bloomsbury | Rowman & Littlefield

Julie Fingersh Stay

What best-selling authors are saying

Stay is so rich, wise, funny, and beautifully written. It’s hard to put down once you start.”

Anne Lamott, #1 NYT best-selling author

Stay is profound, funny, and masterfully told. I read it in a single day. I can’t stop thinking about it.”

Gretchen Rubin, 7x NYT best-selling author of The Happiness Project series and host of the Happier  podcast

“An invaluable and highly readable memoir asking us who we thought we were, how that squares with who we’ve become and what we might want to do about it. Questions every woman I know is asking right about now.”

Kelly Corrigan, 4x NYT bestselling author and host of PBS’s “Tell Me More”

Stay is a work of art, a treasure. An exhibit of integrity, vulnerability, talent, and raw humanity. You will be enthralled.” 

Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., NYT bestselling author of Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples 

“Immersive, warm, real. A rare compelling narrative about parenting adult children, and a balm for those whose children are on the cusp. I loved it.”

Zibby Owens, Founder of Zibby Media, author of USA Today bestselling author, award-winning host of “Totally Booked with Zibby” Podcast

Stay is a book of remarkable emotional depth and wisdom for anyone in search of moving past their pain and making the most of their one precious life. Fingersh writes with a brilliant mind and a loving heart.”

Dr. Edith Eva Eger, NYT bestselling author of The Gift and featured guest on Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday

“An enthralling book that brings light and hope to raising young adults in today’s world of depression and anxiety. An inspiring story for empty nesters about life after kids. I could not put it down.”

Lisa Heffernan, NYT bestselling author and co-founder of Grown & Flown

“Lyrical, wise, freewheeling, both heartbreaking and laugh out loud funny. Proof of the possibility that awaits us all to claim our creative lives, no matter what stage of life we are in.”

Laura Zinn Fromm, Founder of Sweet Lab Writing Workshops and author of Sweet Survival

“Luminous, irreverent, captivating. A love letter to all of us mid-lifers searching for a new roadmap of joy and meaning.”

Laura Munson, USA Today and NYT best-selling author and founder of Haven Writing Retreats

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Julie Fingersh

WRITER | JOURNALIST | AUTHOR

Julie’s personal essays, editorials and reporting cover culture, wellness, relationships, parenting and how to lead a better life. Her work has appeared in media outlets including The New York Times, O, The Oprah Magazine, Huffpost, The San Francisco Chronicle, and the Miami Herald, among others. Her blog is the midlife sequel of the award-winning humorist column she wrote in New York City in her twenties for Billboard Publications, Inc.
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"Spectacular"  "Simply phenomenal" "Deeply moving" "Poignant" "Life changing" "Amazing" "Honest" "Powerful" "Brilliant" "Insightful" "Stunning" "Life affirming" "A must read" "Exquisite" "Riveting" "Magnificent" "Heartfelt" "Emotional" "Inspirational" "Soulful" "Beautiful"

Betina
Betina
One of the greatest delights of my life
I've never before read a memoir where I feel like I have been given permission to feel and think all the things ... and to really live out loud.
David E. Weiss
David E. Weiss
Brilliant, Brave, Honest and Life Changing
RUN to get this book. I thought I was reading about her and learned so much about myself.
Jennifer
Jennifer
Feels like a miracle drug to me
I don't remember the last time I read a book that imparted so much wisdom and evoked so much emotion.
Rachel
Rachel
I ignored my life for a weekend to read this memoir
I am pretty sure this book changed my life. This is not an exaggeration.
Olivia Swindler
Olivia Swindler
This book is stunning
Fingersh beautifully weaves together themes of grief, motherhood, and family, in a way that will stay with me for a long time.
Amazon customer
Amazon customer
A powerful memoir
One of the most powerful memoirs I have ever read.
Mike
Mike
Loved it!!!
Could not put it down. I bought 3 extra copies to give as presents!!!
Erik
Erik
Warm, Loving, Relatable Funny!
A MUST READ for anyone who wants to FEEL, THINK and UNDERSTAND family imperfections
Amazon customer
Amazon customer
a tour de force!
It may have you sending copies to your whole family to start a dialogue on your own family secrets and why they retain so much power.
DT
DT
Ten stars—a must read
You will discover things about yourself, understand mental and physical illness on a deeper level, and find healing and inspiration. A must read!
LL
LL
Powerful memoir
A beautifully written, powerful memoir that you will remember long after you’ve finished reading, and want to recommend to all your friends.
Julie K.
Julie K.
Life Affirming!
Stay provides a wonderful road map for navigating our own personal struggles. A must read.
Lisa
Lisa
Deeply moving
So much wisdom and insight into life and how to live it. I keep buying copies and sending them to people because what it imparts is such a gift!
Jill
Jill
Most memorable, moving memoir I’ve ever read
A rare combination of an expert hand, a sharp wit and an emotionally captivating narrative, bound into a cannot-put-it-down story of love, devotion, heartbreak and strength. A must read.
Amazon customer
Amazon customer
Thank you Julie!
A courageous and fabulously written memoir, allowing all of us to face our truths, as difficult as they may be.
Friemart
Friemart
Fall & Feel Hard With This Read!
This book made me feel alllllll of the feelings. Julie's words helped me uncover and feel things so deeply tucked away that I didn't even know I needed help getting them out. Thank you, Julie, for sharing your story and helping me continue mine.
S. Lawson
S. Lawson
Just Outstanding!!!
Tremendous read, highly recommend!! Laughter, tears, deep breaths and perspective. I usually can't read more than a few pages at a time but I couldn't put it down. Just wonderful.
Michelle L.
Michelle L.
STAY will stay with me
I usually give/donate my books when done, but not this one. Keeping it for re-reading. It's worthy of a forever spot on my bookshelf; it's that kind of book.
Christine K.
Christine K.
"Stay" Will Stay with You
One of the most heartbreaking yet heartwarming books you will read this year.
Edward
Edward
Heart opener
I loved everything about this book. It was so honest, so real. It was filled with vulnerability and with each page I turned I found something I could relate to.

Have feedback to share with me personally? Write me at julie@juliefingersh.com.

Looking for your next Book Club Pick?

Or have you read STAY and just want to be able to have a guided, meaningful discussion about it over dinner with friends? Or (yikes!) your family?

These are the main themes of STAY:

  • The hidden cost of family secrets
  • The generational ripple effect of one family member’s illness
  • The tension women face between their primal desire to nurture others and the human drive for personal identity
  • The no-manual, complex dance of parenting (theoretically) adult children
  • The profound and often invisible toll of our past on our present
  • The secret life of mental and chronic illness for individuals, siblings and families

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