Stay
A Story of Family, Love, & Other Traumas
Now available from Rowman & Littlefield
Advance praise for Stay:
“Julie Fingersh’s Stay is so rich, wise, funny, and beautifully written. It’s hard to put down once you start.”
Anne Lamott
#1 New York Times best-selling author, Guggenheim Fellow, named a “National Treasure” by the New York Times
“Stay is profound, funny, and masterfully told; a beautiful memoir centered on the power of love — the joys of love, the pain of love, the responsibility of love. I read it in a single day.”
Gretchen Rubin
#1 New York Times best-selling author of The Happiness Project and host of the award-winning Happier with Gretchen Rubin podcast
“Julie Fingersh’s invaluable and highly readable memoir is asking us who we thought we were, how that squares with who we’ve become and what we might want to do about it. A question every woman I know is asking right about now.”
Kelly Corrigan
Four-time New York Times bestselling author, host of PBS’s “Tell Me More with Kelly Corrigan,” and the “Kelly Corrigan Wonders” podcast
“Stay is a book of remarkable emotional depth and wisdom for anyone in search of moving past their pain and making the most of their one precious life. Fingersh writes with a brilliant mind and a loving heart.”
Dr. Edith Eva Eger
New York Times bestselling author of The Gift, The Choice, and featured guest on Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday
“Luminous, irreverent, captivating…With a voice you’ll fall in love with, Stay is a love letter to all of us mid-lifers searching for a new roadmap of joy and meaning. It’s also for us mothers, daughters, and sisters who want to love fiercely without losing our way.”
“Stay is a work of art, a treasure. The journey through its pages is an exhibit of integrity, vulnerability, talent, and raw humanity. You will be enthralled.”
Harville Hendrix, Ph.D.
New York Times bestselling author of Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples and How to Talk with Anyone About Anything
“When does parenting end and adulthood begin? Stay is a rare and compelling narrative about what it means to have a struggling child who is actually an almost grown-up. It’s a bittersweet look at parenting adult children, and a balm for those whose children are on the cusp. Immersive, warm, real––like having a cup of coffee with an intimate friend. I loved the writing.”
Zibby Owens
“NYC’s Most Powerful Book-fluencer” (Vulture), founder of Zibby Media, author of USA Today bestselling Blank, and host of “Moms Don’t Have Time to Read” Podcast
“Stay is a deeply personal book that will touch readers and bring greater understanding to raising young adults in today’s world of depression and anxiety. It’s also an inspiring story for empty nesters about life after kids. I could not put it down.”
Lisa Heffernan
New York Times bestselling author and co-founder of Grown and Flown, the #1 site for parents of teens, college students and young adults, reaching millions of parents every month, and co- author of Grown and Flown: How to Support Your Teen, Stay Close as a family, and Raise Independent Adults
“Lyrical, wise, freewheeling, both heartbreaking and laugh out loud funny, Stay is proof of the possibility that awaits us all to claim our creative lives, no matter what stage of life we are in.”
Laura Zinn Fromm
Founder of Sweet Lab Writing Workshops and author of Sweet Survival
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For fans of Kelly Corrigan, Jenny Lawson, and Anna Quindlen, Stay: A Story of Family, Love, & Other Traumas is a riveting debut memoir that captures the light and shadows of family, the cost of our secrets, and the quest to help those we love without losing our own way. More >><< Less
“What happened to Danny”—which was how Julie Fingersh’s family often referred to her little brother’s life story—had always been sealed in sacred privacy, unfolding year after year under the noses of everyone around them. Their odyssey was easily concealed; things like this did not happen to families like theirs. Then, decades later, a different something happened. But this time Julie wasn’t a young sister trying to help her beloved brother. She was a mid-life parent on the verge of an empty nest, and this time it was her own child’s life suddenly careening off track.
Sparkling with warmth, insight, and lyrical prose, Stay explores the joyous and painful complexity of relationships, parenting, and mid-life. It also offers readers a rare, deeply affecting look behind the often-hidden veil of those navigating serious personal struggle, be it medical or mental. Above all, Stay provides sustenance for anyone on a search for how to love others fiercely while rising to the possibility of our own lives.
Upcoming Events
This week!
Books Inc.
Julie Fingersh in conversation with Kate Brady, Board President of NAMI San Francisco
- October 17, 2024
- 6:00pm
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Books Inc. in the Marina/SF
2251 Chestnut Street, San Francisco, CA 94123 - More info
Book Passage
Julie Fingersh in conversation with Diane Provo
- October 19, 2024
- 4:00pm
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Book Passage Corte Madera
51 Tamal Vista Blvd., Corte Madera, CA - More info
Shakespeare & Co.
Julie Fingersh will be signing copies of her new book, Stay: A Story of Family, Love, and Other Traumas. A discussion of the book will be led by Laura Zinn Fromm.
- November 18, 2024
- 6:00pm
- 2020 Broadway, New York, NY 10023
- More info
Congregation Rodef Sholom
Author Julie Fingersh in conversation with Rabbi Stacy Friedman
- December 15, 2024
- 4:00pm
- 170 North San Pedro Road, San Rafael CA 94903
- More info / RSVP
Tucson Festival of Books
Details to come
- March 15-16, 2025
- 9:30am - 5:30pm
- University of Arizona Mall
- More info
Julie Fingersh
WRITER | JOURNALIST | AUTHOR
Julie’s personal essays, editorials and reporting cover culture, wellness, relationships, parenting and how to lead a better life. Her work has appeared in media outlets including The New York Times, O, The Oprah Magazine, Huffpost, The San Francisco Chronicle, and the Miami Herald, among others. Her blog is the midlife sequel of the award-winning humorist column she wrote in New York City in her twenties for Billboard Publications, Inc.
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